So I was discussing with a friend. She shared a rather interesting story with me and I’d like to share with you guys.
She has a very demanding 8am – 7pm job. It’s typical for her to come home knackered, more typical for her to go to bed without having dinner. This is her regular routine everyday of the week. Her boyfriend decided to come and spend the weekend with her (he has his key. She left work later than usual on Friday (the day her boyfriend arrived), already thinking to herself it’s going to be business as usual that is sleep without eating. She got home, ready to hit the bed when her boyfriend told her he had made dinner. She was shocked. Different things went through her mind – boys cook for their girlfriends? Boys cook?
She shared that story with and that birthed the thought behind this post – Should the man cook?
In a typical African home, it is considered a taboo for the man to be found in the kitchen. Even our president confirmed the cliché that the man is the head of the home when he said “my wife belongs in the kitchen and the other room”. But we are not on about “the other room” today. Let’s stick to the kitchen.
The question is – Is this cliché still valid? Shouldn’t we have moved on that stereotype?
I believe the man and the woman are supposed to complement each other in a relationship. The woman shouldn’t be seen as a “slave” rather as a helpmate. It’s the duty of the man to help out when he can. Remember the story above, ask yourself how delighted the girl would have felt with that gesture. I can bet she definitely holds him in a higher regard after that.
We need to move past the norm and treat our ladies right. Every relationship is tailored differently. Communication is a major factor in relationships. If you don’t want your man to make your meals, talk about it. If you don’t mind him doing the cooking, talk about it but don’t take the privilege for granted and forget you should be doing more of the cooking. He’s there to assist you not replace you in doing your duties.
So, guys, what do you think? would you cook for your woman? Also, do you think cooking duties amongst working class duties should be delegated to whoever gets home first?
Share your comments below.